I work in a profession that demands interaction. Advising senior executives, providing guidance to managers, helping all kinds of people tell their stories well, answering media questions, being the public face of the company at events … some weeks it’s a real whirlwind. A perfect job for an extrovert.
Except I’m not. Confession time – my name is Katherine, and I am an introvert.
I don’t know how many who know me at work would necessarily see that. I’ve worked hard over the years to battle that side of me, and to push myself to be more social and outgoing. To be able to walk into that room full of strangers and network without my heart pounding. To appear comfortable expressing half-formed ideas on the spot and taking the spotlight. A sheep in wolf’s clothing, to turn the expression on its ear.
But truth be told, I’d rather be in the wings, guiding action perhaps, but not being the star. One of my favourite quotes, and the one you see in my profile, speaks to that. It was Edith Wharton, a turn of the century American novelist, short story writer and designer, who in 1902, wrote:
“There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.”
And that really defines me. I don’t need – or want – to be the candle, but I’m perfectly comfortable helping the candle and making it shine brighter.
Some people think introverts are shy. I don’t buy that. I think the Huffington Post had it right last summer when they published an article entitled 6 Things You Thought Wrong About Introverts. It’s worth checking out if you have an introvert in your life.
I’ve delivered plenty of speeches in my life. Made well-prepared presentations to large groups. Sung and acted on stage. Stood up for myself when I knew I was right. Been “on” at multi-day industry events. But those things take a huge toll on me. At the end, I not only want – but NEED – to have some time alone to recharge with no “noise pollution” or interruptions. That solitude gives me time to process everything I’ve come across and mentally sort it, make sense of it and get ready to experience more.
Despite my introvert tendencies, and that solitary quiet time needed to re-energize, I’m pushing myself this year to take on new challenges, and that’s starting bear fruit in my personal and professional growth. I’m spending time with new people, trying new things and sharing more of myself with others – that’s partly what this blog is about. I know people are reading (even if you’re not commenting!), and that’s a good feeling.
So now it’s your turn to share something with me today – are you an introvert or an extrovert?
